tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-65324996350784679982024-03-14T02:10:23.905-04:00Leap of LoveOur Journey To EthiopiaJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.comBlogger185125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-10991387749533976972013-09-09T13:39:00.000-04:002013-09-09T13:39:01.902-04:00The Start of School<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Big transitions at our home. Andrew went back to college. Eliza started college. Zach started high school, Bella is in first grade and Efa started preschool. I am back in nursing school. The school year starts with such a force that I have found that the first few weeks everyone is suffering from a little whiplash. If you do this long enough...you get better at preparing and sometimes even avoid serious injury.<br />
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So much to update but today...I am just going to share a story. Eliza texted the riding coach on Labor Day, while still in bed asking for more info on the riding team (a Div 1 team). The coach responded...saying tryouts are right now, I will send someone to pick you up in 15 minutes. Eliza threw on her boots, riding pants, chaps, and a t-shirt, only to find that all the girls were in full show dress. Her response...Oh well, at least I get to ride a horse today. She actually was offered a varsity spot. That's my girl! Except...I can take no credit. No credit for the reaching out to the coach. No credit for not being defeated when everyone else is dressed much more formally. No credit for being grateful for the opportunity even when it looks like you won't win or succeed. No credit for being self aware enough to say no thank you to the coveted position when you realize it may take away from your studies and leaving the door open to next year. I was very different at 18. I am reminded how much I have to learn from my children. They are perhaps my greatest teacher. I am struck by the faith that they were handpicked for me...to teach me so much. Hopefully, I will be a good student.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-59405019873497374732013-03-19T10:08:00.000-04:002013-03-19T10:08:42.311-04:00Finding the JoyMy mom has been gone for one month shy of 10 years. She was a unique woman. I could go on and on about her. I wish I had appreciated all that she was when she was alive. But I was young and stupid. One of the greatest things I learned from her was finding the JOY. I grew up in a family that adopted trans racially, in a time well before there were books to read and therapies to try. My mom knew that love was not enough....but it was a great place to start and end. All adoption stories have loss (and trauma) and with loss comes sadness and grief. I have thought long and hard about this, I have attended seminars, webinars, and read countless books. Just recently I had to put everything I have learned into practice. A practice that is mine. Not what the experts say. Not what other adoptive parents would do. I had to be authentic. I want my kids to know JOY. <br />
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Bella recently asked me if I could tell her about the day she was born. I told her that I was not there but I could guess what happened on the day she was born. She wanted me to guess. So snuggled up together, I imagined what that day was probably like. I imagine it was as special as the day my other children where born. I told her how big she probably was, and who was probably there, and what she probably looked like. I told her what her first few days were probably like. Some of it I don't have to guess too much on....She was one happy baby! She probably rarely cried. Bella loved her story. She found the JOY among the pain and loss. She has asked me a couple times to tell her her birth story again and again. <br />
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I don't know what tomorrow will bring, how she will continue to process the losses. But for now, my sweet girl finds the JOY.<br />
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Efa has been home 7m and Bella has been home 3 years. I love that they have each other in our family. I love that they have a sibling that looks like them. I love that they have a sibling that shares in being adopted. These two could not be closer. Efa asks, "when is Bay-ya coming home from school." Bella watches over Efa. If someone gives Efa a treat, he shares it with Bella. This is what a normal day looks like. I am thankful for a full house and heart.</div>
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<br />Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-46849736943884479902012-09-28T18:22:00.002-04:002012-09-28T18:22:37.578-04:00Fall Update I was blessed to be able to go to the Empowered to Connect Conference a few weeks ago. It was a luxury to be able to sit and listen without trying to solve a problem or resolve a conflict. I walked away with so many great suggestions for both my adopted kids and my bio kids. I think that Karen Purvis is amazing. Some of my take-aways:<br />
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Voice: Tone, volume, and body language is 97% of communication. Kids often don't even hear the words. (Big for me and my teenagers....)</div>
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Going to the conference, has made me think even more about adoption than I normally do. When you make brownies from scratch....you mix the eggs, flour, sugar, and vanilla. You bake in a heated oven for about a half hour. Voila! A yummy dessert. However, you can't "unbake the brownies," if you then need the eggs. I have noticed that kids are not too dissimilar. Adopted kids, particularly. It can be hard, if not impossible to tell if a behavior (i.e friendliness) or fear (i.e. of babysitter) is an adoption related issue. Or is it personality. Or is it a function of a good fit in family. Is it some past trauma or life experience? Why do some kids have a really difficult time transitioning when others don't? I don't have any answers. Just wondering. Truly, I think that this is also true of bio kids, too. If you have a rambunctious boy born into a girly girl family....the fit may be an on-going work in progress where as if that same baby had been born into a family of all boys, he may not even be seen as rambunctious. Recently we had our social worker visit and again, she and I were talking about this specifically. Is everything going well because I expect so little? My social worker laughed. We will never know because we can't "unbake the brownies."<br />
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All this to say...we are good. Really good and blessed. I am still tired. But we are good. Efa and I are taking a Mommy and Me art class. Bella has started kindergarten and loves it. Zach is juggling soccer and school. Eliza is working on her college applications. Andrew is busy as his fraternity president and his classes. Hmmm.....maybe this is why I am tired:) </div>
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It seems wrong to write and post this on a rainy overcast day. Summer is about to start. We are busy. Busy in a new way. My house is mess. I am tired by the end of the day. Bone weary. I am so thankful that I am not starting clinicals in the fall. I could not do it! Instead I am taking American Sign Language...to just keep me from withdrawing and re-applying. I am excited for that class. I guess I am older, humbling to feel it. I have resurrected a word that we used all the time when the older kids were little. Peace-ability. The ability to be peaceful. At 5pm I feel like I am using it all the time. Efa is super busy. I can not let him out of my sight. He has been known to turn on the stove, try to open the door of a moving car-being-successful, once (thank the Lord for child safe locks), tried to flush the phone. The list keeps going. He is sweet. He is smart. He does not care for the word "No!" His new word is "Dangerous!" for a reason. We actually refer to him as "Bam Bam" because he is running, kicking, throwing, and making noise in way that only a boy could, all the time. Bella has become known as "Pebbles." He wants to do anything and everything Bella is doing. When she is at school, he is lonely for his partner in crime. Summer starts tomorrow. All school is over! I love summer. I love the release from structure and routine. I love coming up with the bucket list for summer....blueberry picking, joining the library program, pizza on the beach, ice cream visits, family walks, family vacation, raw oysters (we are the talk of the restaurant....because Bella even loves to try them), study of Nehemiah. I will post it when we are done crafting it.<br />
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Eliza leaves for Ethiopia on Friday. She is meeting <a href="http://teamalexander.blogspot.com/">Emily and crew</a> in Frankfurt. This will be the second time she has been to Ethiopia. She is so excited. Please pray for her safety as well as the the following:<br />
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A handful of kids is good. 5 is good. 2 years old is a handful, but good. Efa is doing really well. He is fitting in beautifully. He is funny and sweet. He does not like sitting still for pictures. Bella loves having a little brother, most of the time. She said, "I am so lucky to be his big sister." And then a morning later..."I miss the old days." Oh so normal! I speak on a panel this weekend...for couples considering adoption. I am excited to share our stories. </div>
<br />Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-3901582162646276722012-04-18T09:36:00.000-04:002012-04-18T09:36:02.718-04:00God is Good!I have gone to write about our time in Ethiopia, and every time I try, I get caught up in the timeline. We are home. We have all fallen, hook, line, and sinker for our sweet boy. He is funny, smart, sweet, and busy.<br />
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When we adopted Bella, Bella preferred me to Jason. So we knew to expect that Efa might prefer one of us over the other. I just did not expect that to be someone other that me! Well, it gave each of us perspective on the other's experience. Hard. My feelings were hurt. Truly wrestled with what the other parents on the trip would think of me. Aren't all kids suppose to love their mom? Childish, I know. Because we went through it before, I was patient. Efa rewarded my patience with such sweetness that it got me through the next day. When we got home, he started to warm up to me. He wanted me at 3 in the morning. He wanted me when he ate. So I went to bed earlier than I have in years and was up at 3 to feed and snuggle. We have built on that time and now, I would say he is pretty balanced between us, Jason and me. <br />
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Efa loves his siblings and they adore him. Bella needed to be reassured that we would not have to bring him back to Ethiopia. After that, it was lights out. She loves that they are both from Ethiopia and that they both have curly hair. <br />
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our grace that we sing before every meal...so we inevitably have to sing it several tiems.<br />
cream of wheat, mashed potatoes, cheerios, buna<br />
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moving his eyebrows in funny expressions<br />
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</tbody></table>We are truly blessed to be his parents. Like labor, the pain of the process has lost some of its edge. We will be working to get all 5 children (or at least 4 of the 5) in same spot for a complete family picture.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-17520329401189384522012-04-01T17:01:00.000-04:002012-04-01T17:01:00.408-04:00It is over!*<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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Yes. I am coming to get you, Efa. God is Good, always. Thursday night, I was not feeling well, battling a sinus infection that is kicking my tush (as Bella would say) and just sad that another week was coming to a close without being cleared. We saw this boy 5 months ago to the day, we were referred this little boy 9 months ago. He is turning into a little boy right infront of my eyes but through pictures. I could not do my bible study. I could not read scripture. I could not study for Global Health. So I listened to a sermon. One on...when God <b>appears</b> to be absent, inattentive, or uncaring. Just listening to Andy Stanley be able to hand feed me scripture, was a gift. It gave me peace that He had this covered, too. No matter the outcome. No matter the timing. No matter how hard. I knew that but I needed to be reminded and encouraged not to lose heart. This is the scripture Andy Stanley kept coming back to "<i><b>Blessed is anyone who does not stumble on account of me. Matthew 11:6</b></i>" I woke up to an email that we cleared. I wish I could say I have not stumble....I did. I had moments of incredible grief for the time we were missing needlessly. I yelled at God and sobbed. But after all the energy expended at each episode, like a child, I would go back and know that He knows best, and that I wanted whatever He wanted. Even if my worst fear (that Efa would not come home to us) was realized, His plan is always bigger and bettter than what I can imagine. My dad once said, God always answers prayers. Always! His answer is...Yes; No, not yet; or No, I have something better in mind. I have no idea and may never know the reason He allowed it to take this long....but I do know His way is not ours. <br />
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The other day I was picking up a little gift for a friend in Ethiopia that I have never met. She has worked tirelessly to help bring Efa home. When the lady behind the counter found out why, she said, "I have always wanted to adopt." I shared with her our two adoption stories and ended it with....as hard as adoption has been, it is soooo worth it. My sweet baby boy is coming home! <br />
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*sorry for the tired ramblings.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-33424696713091057272012-03-24T10:48:00.000-04:002012-03-24T10:48:21.814-04:00Going on SafariWe are not...but our paperwork is. Our legal response is en route to Nairobi. I am tracking it, cross the world. Silly, I know. I feel like I am getting closer to Efa. <br />
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I have marveled that, for us, life seems to have been on hold, that the journey has gotten rocky, that we have had to change a few tires due to puncture wounds, that detours and road blocks have delayed our journey....but for Efa, none of this is true. Part of the dis-synchronicity (is that even a word?) of adoption. We fall in love with this little guy a world away, yet he has fallen in love with his care givers. We have his picture up all over the house, and have studied his face. He will not know who we are. It will take pain and healing for synchronicity to begin to grow. Unfortunately, it is Efa who will be in pain.<br />
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Efa celebrated his second birthday last weekend. Never has the sensation of his babyhood slipping through my fingers been so strong. Never has my prayer life been so vibrant. However, I was so sad, that I actually posted a comment on Scott Brown's (our unresponsive senator) fb page. After seeing Sen Brown on TV, on Efa's birthday (also, St. Patrick's day, a big day in Boston) yucking it up with his daughters and other politicians....I needed to do something. This is the comment I posted.<br />
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So we were sent on Tuesday, or so we thought. After being sent, Jason sent several emails out. One to USCIS with a copy of our cover letter identifying our supplementary submissions of our extra investigation. After our experience with the embassy, we could not trust our file would be sent in its entirety. He also asked USCIS to check that it had in fact been sent, as we were aware of a family that had been told that they were sent but were in fact not sent for another week.<br />
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Truly, today my heart was full. There have been blessings throughout this hard hard process. I have learned so much more about God. I have truly wrestled and screamed at Him. I have been furious with Him. After all, what good will come from making Efa wait? Perhaps I will never know. But I do know that He has got this covered, and that He is okay with my not getting my way. And that somehow He has planned this too. In it all, I have grown closer to Him. Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-21330360100534405402012-02-28T07:36:00.000-05:002012-02-28T07:36:21.106-05:00Nairobi<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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We wait. Our file has been sent to Nairobi. As much as we expected the email, it still punches you in the gut. I can not bring myself to look at the calendar and see where that will bring us. Even writing about it makes me cry. It has been 8 months since his referral. It has been 4 months since we met him. It has been 7 weeks since our submission...but the timekeeping does nothing to change the fact that we wait. I know that the calendar is a tool of despair in the process of adoption. After all, I am an "experienced" adoptive parent...can you hear the sarcasm? I was really careful not to plan on him being home by Christmas. However I thought for sure that we would travel in January. And in my mind, I started to think how special his 2nd birthday would be in March. March 17th. March 17th, he will not be home, though. I fell into the horrible trap of having a calendar of expectations. <br />
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<i>Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. Psalm 73:23</i>Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-20675962577951678472012-02-13T17:41:00.000-05:002012-02-13T17:41:15.683-05:00Hard Stuff<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So then after spending thousands more on an already expensive adoption, we submitted a more complete file. RFE ready was our standard. Jan 10 we were submitted. The first error by the embassy, they emailed our information to the wrong family. This family was submitted several weeks before us. So now we know that the file has been corrupted with other/their information. Two weeks later USE requests the phone number of the police officer who brought Efa to the orphanage. Delay tactic. The phone number is already in our file. DOS says jump, we say, "how high?" Our agency provides the numbers a day and a half later, Jan 26. At this point, our Senator and Representatives are involved We forward the email to them and say it looks like things are moving again. A week later. Nothing. Senator reaches out again. And the response is a little puzzling to them. The embassy responds and says, "Gosh, we have only just received the numbers on the 30th" Our Senator notices the date discrepancy and comments...hmmm, why the few days difference? Meanwhile, no news. This past week, we reached out again, this time to our agency. Have the witnesses been contacted. They asked the social worker on the ground to check....no, the policeman has not been contacted. We received an email form the embassy, last Friday. They had contacted the witness on Feb 2 and Feb 7, but he was in training, so they would reach out again today. Well, as it turns out, our social worker is in ET right now, so we emailed and asked....can you verify this with the police officer. They called him Sunday. No, the embassy has never called him. They are ready to take and expecting the call from the USE. Still no call today.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The long and short.....is the embassy lying? are they calling the wrong witness? are the police lying (why would he? He has already been interviewed two times) Even if it all a big misunderstanding...why a call once a week? This is NOT a "deal" or a "program" this is a little BOY. Why not call several times a day or a week. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
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I am going to post about Valentine's Day. I am so excited about what I am going to surprise Jason with. It has been therapeutic to think about a new way of telling Jason, "I love you." Whenever we have added a child to the family, we have made every effort to find ways to stay connected when we are exhausted, and pulled in a different direction. Valentine's Day is falling just as we are about to add another little one. So, I am surprising Jason with a dozen dates. The catch,we are on a budget, college and adoption will do that to you. My inspiration came from something I saw on P<a href="http://loveactually-blog.blogspot.com/">interest</a>. <br />
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2. Brunch at Beehive Boston and skating on Frog pond.<br />
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3. Historic tour of the North End (downloaded to iPhone) and Mike's pastries.<br />
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4. An evening at the Museum of Fine Arts (free every Wednesday) and then the cheese platter and wine at the restaurant.<br />
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Just to name few. I have a few more than 12 that I have identified. Now I have to take a few out. All of the dates are inexpensive and pretty uncomplicated. I tried to come up with some that were good in the winter, spring, summer, and fall. Planning the dates have been so much fun. The kids are helping. I almost feel bad that he is missing out on that part.<br />
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So here is the latest update. We have been in a holding pattern. Our case mirrors another case, right down to the same witnesses. Before you cry "Foul!" if you were to hear the details...it makes sense. They were sent to USCIS. So we were trying to decide if we wait to see what would happen with them or hire the attorney and make sure our submission was as complete as possible. I believe that we are the first case to hire the attorney proactively. <br />
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One of the things we are doing is re-interviewing the witnesses with extremely detailed questions. But it has been almost 2 years. One of the witnesses may have moved, and another is not sure that they want to talk. This morning, is a good example of how it rolls...one email telling us that one of the witnesses does not want to talk to anyone. The next, saying that they have changed their mind and will talk. Then a third saying...the case that we mirror has been cleared, with out an RFE. (An answer to many prayers.) Good news also for us. <br />
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Today, I must be particularly fragile. I am tired of the ride. I just want to bring him home. I am so thankful for Kathy, our case worker, my friends who sit and listen to my complaining about the USE (thank you, Katy), and last but not least, my prayer warriors who are storming heaven with prayers. Wow, what would I do without them? So we trudge on, through the muck and mire of international adoption. I can't wait for the metaphorical rain to stop and the rainbow to appear. And stuck in my back pocket for those moments that I get pulled into the flood...and can't remember what I am holding fast to...is this scripture: "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 I remind myself that these words are written for Efa, too. <br />
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</div>And then I get a glimpse of the rainbow. Pictures of our boy from Becky and CHI and a text from Emily. Efa is happy outside playing with the big boys.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-45545788130322268782011-12-15T17:06:00.002-05:002011-12-15T17:09:39.262-05:006 weeksThis post is all about me. I mean that in an obnoxious self-pitying transparent way. The 6 weeks since we have met our little man have been an amusement ride of emotion. The disappointment of not passing on the day of our court date gave way to the elation of passing two weeks later. Then we moved to dreaming about when we would be bringing him home. Braided in is the sadness that Efa would be leaving the only home he has known, the only woman he has known as "mom", and the "family" he has loved and been loved by. We have our birth certificate and our passport.<br />
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The ride has just gotten terrifying. Watching a friend with a different agency who traveled with us, pass court, be submitted, clear, and leave to bring home... So excited to welcome home <a href="http://www.rulandnorgrenadoption.blogspot.com/">E.</a> (Did I mention she is the same age as Bella and I love her mom?) Watching my sweet friend <a href="http://teamalexander.blogspot.com/">Emily</a>, pass court, be submitted, and clear (thank you Lord). We have not been submitted to embassy. I trust that our agency is doing everything they can to be submitted and successful at the embassy level.<br />
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But this brings me to my <i>pets</i>. We have two new pets-Discouragement and Impatience. Actually, I am not sure how <i>new</i> they are. They are normally caged, but they are sneaky, and often escape and run rampant in the house. They are quite destructive. The craziest things can release them. They feed on the most unexpected things...expectations are like a Red Bull to them. They go crazy! I hate admitting it. But I am truly hoping to vanquish them from the house. As I am becoming more aware of them and their triggers...I have come to realize that they did not move in just recently. They think that they have lived here forever. <br />
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So, I wait. I wait to be submitted in this beautiful season where we await the Greatest Gift. The parallel is not lost on us. In fact it becomes even more clear why I need Him. I am so flawed. My heart aches to bring this little boy home. I pray for his case to be submitted. I pray that the USE sees the evidence and allows Efa to come home. I pray for patience. I pray for a stronger faith. I pray for encouragement. I pray not to feel forgotten.<br />
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Bella is loving her preschool day. We are falling into a sweet new normal. The other day, she got to sleep late (9:00...can you say growth spurt) and rolled out of bed, I got her cereal in a baggie, an apple, and juice and took her for a long morning walk in the jogger. She was in heaven. Talked my ear off. Loved the she was in her pj's underneath a blanket. Zach is researching how he can play soccer full time... Eliza is trying to get her driving hours in so she can finally get her license and Andrew is probably busier than he should be. <br />
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35 days until we get on a plane to go meet our little guy. Sometimes I feel like his babyhood is slipping away. The wait is hard. The not knowing when he will be home, even harder. But I do know that this is the easier part of the wait. After we meet him, hold him, the wait will be so much harder.Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-12674069580343169692011-08-21T08:10:00.001-04:002011-08-21T08:11:13.801-04:0067 prayers left<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1oXfUgc9PA8/TlDzDVX2DkI/AAAAAAAAAwk/Gr7gS2MbGn8/s1600/photo.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1oXfUgc9PA8/TlDzDVX2DkI/AAAAAAAAAwk/Gr7gS2MbGn8/s320/photo.jpg" width="240" /></a></div>Over the years we have made several paper chains to "count down" to some special event. This is one our most special paper chains. We call it our prayer chain. Each of us had 12 strips of paper and on the back side we wrote a prayer for our little guy. Bella wrote with me transcribing, anything from "Jesus please keep him stay safe" to "I hope that he wants a big sister like me." Zach wants divine intervention to help him be a "good soccer player or at least like the game." (Already done! I hear he loves soccer balls.) For me, the prayers were covering him in comfort when he had a bad dream, or when he makes his future transition, to helping to make me the mother he will need when he gets home, and in twenty years. As the days fall away, we break he chain and read the prayer aloud before our grace at dinner. We have 68 left. Then we will return and make a new prayer chain. And each of those prayers will bring him closer and closer to being home. Baby boy, we are waiting patiently. Knowing that the time before court is serving to prepare us and you for each other!<br />
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Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-72888434747914077742011-08-11T20:17:00.001-04:002011-08-11T21:11:26.102-04:00Nov 1Seems so far away. It really seems like the dead of winter (I know it is not). It is a special day. My Father-In-Law's birthday. It is now even more special... It is our court date for our little boy. A date. A concrete date that shows movement. Getting him closer to being in our family. I have gotten some darling pictures of him. He is simply a sweet child. It is also perfectly clear in the photos that his heart will be broken when he has to leave the beautiful orphanage director! Ohhh goodness. I know that he is getting the best of care and love. Would you mind praying for his little heart?<br />
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On a lighter note...we had our travel clinic appointment. Jason-one shot. Me-none. Zach-none.<br />
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<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">For this child I have prayed. 1 Samuel 1:27</span></i>Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17707230280109661294noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6532499635078467998.post-68618487969988171402011-07-15T12:56:00.000-04:002011-07-15T12:56:27.079-04:00Mid Summer HappeningsWe spent a week on the vineyard. Martha's Vineyard has always been one of my favorite places in the world. But then everyone discovered it....and crowds are not my thing! This year we went a month earlier than usual because of college and high school schedules and you know what...It was quiet, again. No crowds. So the kids walked to the beach, swam, surfed, went fishing, slept late, ate ice cream, watched bi-planes and gliders take off and land, played games, rode the carousel, got tattoos, went to Vineyard Sound, got chocolate from Chilmark Chocolates, met up with summer friends, and planned for next summer when our new little guy would be home. What a gift it was to withdrawal from the chaos and enjoy the fact that we have seen his face and that CHI was working so hard so that we could then get to the next step of the process. Feel so blessed.<br />
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Flash forward to this adoption. The details are not so dramatic but same dramatic effect. We saw a little boy on a wait list. Actually, we saw two little boys on a wait list. Both so very sweet. Both would be a blessing to any family. Different stories, and yet kind of the same...they both have been waiting for a family for a long time, their whole life. So how do you decide between perfect for our family and perfect for our family? So we talked to the administrator, and then the director who has met them to see if we would be a better family for one of them...youngest of five vs only and oldest. (I will do a long post on the people of YWAM, and how much we love them. How much they inspire us. Have I mentioned that they have sent us several hand written notes just letting us know that they are thinking about and praying for us?) No way to tell. After Jason's initial, "Okay, let's adopt both," (not an option, not allowed by our agency), we prayed. That's the beautiful thing about prayer and faith. The answer came. Almost immediately. While we still cared for the other sweet little boy, and could have loved him or any other child as our own, it was clear which one was ours. We were matched and then waited briefly for our official referral. The call from our case worker was unexpected, but not because we did not know it was coming or what child would be on the paperwork. It was unexpected because we knew she would be flying outside of the country. There was nothing new in his information that we did not know. There were a couple new pictures. Oh yeah, that email came at 1:30 am. And I have not figured out how to open zip files...so I could only open the "non-zip" files which thankfully were the really important ones. So there was no cell phone battery dying. No race home to get the email. And no falling in love...we were already there!<br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Yesterday was a crummy, cold, and rain day. The day started off with a doggy accident on a white rug that thankfully was not too bad. I should have known that it was going to be that kind of day, a day of serving on my knees. By mid afternoon, I had all the kids home plus a couple of extras. I also was gearing up to go into work (at Williams Sonoma) that evening. It was a book reading, movie watching, and game playing kind of day. All the kids were spread out around the house, upstairs, downstairs, basement. Bella was playing off and on with all of them at some time. So about an hour before I have to leave for work, I discover my sweet baby had used a whole roll (one of those triple rolls) of toilet paper to wipe her bum...and let me just reiterate that bum is TINY. So I start to tackle that "problem." At some point I realize that Eliza must be showering (she worked a horse camp). And then I am thinking...wow, I need to talk to her about her 45 minute shower!!! So I started getting a little heated about how long of a shower she was taking and was going to go knock on her bathroom door. I must have been really stewing because I walked up the stairs not even noticing water on the floor. Once upstairs...I find that it is in fact Bella who has decided "to become Ariel of little mermaid" and in fact flooded the bathroom and had added a waterfall element to our first floor. So I spent the rest of the time before work...cleaning, drying, and cutting the ceiling open so that it will dry and we can fix it... It sounds like the house was chaotic. It actually wasn't. Chaos might have been better. All this to remind my cherub in that picture above...that she still needs mommy's help doing some things. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
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