Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Duck Duck Goose


This may be my one and only rant.  I don't do confrontation.  I sometimes write a post and then delete because I am nervous about what will people think, so here goes.

I have decided that I hate the game of Duck Duck Goose.  I guess I never really gave it too much thought until the other day.  Bella is in a 45 minute Ballet class.  Let me repeat...Ballet.  I watched it the other day from a little window.  It is really very cute how intense she is about it.  I am biased, but I think she is the most beautiful ballerina.  Having said that, she is in a class of little girls that have blond bobs.  Do we really have no brunettes or red heads in this town???  She has a good friend/best friend in the class too.  So back to Duck Duck Goose.  They played Duck Duck Goose for 16 minutes.  Really???!!!  Can I repeat it's a 45 minute ballet class?  My heart started to hurt when other little girls had been picked a second and a third time and Bella had not been picked once.  Really????!!!!  I don't blame the kids, I do blame the teacher.  The little girl with glasses, also was not picked.  These kiddos are too young for this and a good teacher should help the kids manage the landscape of fairness and inclusion.  I wanted to go in there and never have Bella return.  You don't get the joy of knowing this kid.  She is awesome.  She is fun.  She is smart.  She is kind. No I am not biased....but if you aren't going to be nice....you don't get to know her.  Thankfully, I grew up before she got out of class.  She loves this class.  Will I sign her up for this class next year?  No way!  But all week, I was formulating what I was going to say if I saw the same thing this week.  Someone must have said something because this week....no Duck Duck Goose.

5 comments:

Ellen said...

My heart hurts for her, too. I am dreading the first time I see that kind of exclusion of my son.

Katy said...

16 minutes of duck duck goose? It sounds like boiling point material. You should demand a pro-rated refund. I've seen the recitals that this particular ballet program does several times and I'll tell you, those teachers (Ms. J, Ms. A, Ms. A, etc. .) do a serious dance routine in the recital that is SO EMBARRASING for them. It made me laugh because I am a meanspirited human sometimes and I was looking to criticize because I was not impressed by the sexiness of the 6 year old party-in-the-usa routine. Have you ever been to the Urban Nutcracker that BalletRox does? It is amazing. Mia & I go every year. Want to go with us? If by any chance Ruth or Aster love, love, love ballet, I'll look into the BalletRox program someday. Rant on. You are right.

Deena / TEAM MARQUIS said...

Uhg! I hate the idea of wasting 16 minutes on duck duck goose, but I am even more disappointed in the teacher not realizing what was going on with her silly game! I can relate to your dance class dilema...Grace is the only AA girl in her dance class too (seriously, where are the dark haired beauties???). During observation week, I watched as one little girl was uncomfortable holding her hand for the circle! Broke my heart. Luckily, she has an amazing teacher who recognized what was happening. I know exactly how you feel!!!!

coffeemom said...

Just ugh. ANd why duck duck goose in ballet anyhow???? IT's not balletic....kiddie yes. BUt they can get those games at pre-K....or hte playground. WOrk on their stretching.....anyhow. I'd be boiling with you. Subtle but frustrating. YOu have such good radar tho...well done mama. And if she goes, OH MY GOODNESS, their loss indeed.

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